What qualities make a woman disagreeable or agreeable to a man.

SN 37.1  Mātugāma sutta - Woman

“Pañcahi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantaamanāpo hoti purisassa. Katamehi pañcahi? Na ca rūpavā hoti, na ca bhogavā hoti, na ca sīlavā hoti, alaso ca hoti, pajañcassa na labhati imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantaamanāpo hoti purisassa.

“Bhikkhus, when a woman possesses five qualities, she becomes |extremely disagreeable::utterly undesirable [ekantaamanāpa]| to a man. What five? She is not beautiful, not |wealthy::prosperous, rich [bhogavant]|, not |virtuous::ethical, moral [sīlavant]|, lazy, and she bears no children. Bhikkhus, when a woman possesses these five qualities, she becomes extremely disagreeable to a man.

Pañcahi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantamanāpo hoti purisassa. Katamehi pañcahi? Rūpavā ca hoti, bhogavā ca hoti, sīlavā ca hoti, dakkho ca hoti analaso, pajañcassa labhati imehi kho, bhikkhave, pañcahi aṅgehi samannāgato mātugāmo ekantamanāpo hoti purisassā”ti.

Bhikkhus, when a woman is endowed with five qualities, she becomes |extremely agreeable::utterly desirable [ekantamanāpa]| to a man. What five? She is beautiful, wealthy, virtuous, skilled, not lazy, and she bears children. Bhikkhus, when a woman is endowed with these five qualities, she becomes extremely agreeable to a man.”

Topics & Qualities:

Laziness

Laziness

Unwillingness or lack of energy and motivation to engage in wholesome activities or exert effort, leading to stagnation and missed opportunities for growth.

Also known as: sloth, indolence, sluggishness, idleness, inactivity
Pāli: kosajja, tandī, ālasya
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Ethical conduct

Ethical conduct

A disciplined way of living grounded in harmlessness and integrity. Ethical conduct restrains the body and speech from harm, purifies behavior, and forms the foundation for collectedness and wisdom.

Also known as: moral integrity, right action, virtue
Pāli: sīla, sammākammanta
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Last updated on December 7, 2025