Politeness View in explorer

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A relational quality of being considerate, timely, and gentle in conduct—especially in speech—that gives ease to others, attends to social cues, and avoids harshness; it supports concord in community.
Also known as: courtesy, being considerate, being well-mannered, friendliness
Pāli: paṭisanthāra, saṇha, sorata, sappatissa
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Appreciative joy

Appreciative joy

A mental quality of rejoicing in the success and happiness of others, which counters envy and leads to the abandoning of discontentment from the mind.

Also known as: mudita, appreciation, rejoicing in the happiness of others, delight in the success of others
Pāli: muditā
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Humility

Humility

An honest, even-toned self-appraisal that stays open to feedback, honors others, and neither inflates nor denies one’s real abilities; it supports learning, concord, and restraint.

Also known as: accepting of correction, modesty, unpretentiousness, humbleness, freedom from self-importance, recognition of limits, staying teachable
Pāli: anatimāna
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Non Regret

Non-regret

A mental quality of not regretting past actions, characterized by a clear conscience and absence of remorse; it arises from accomplishment in ethical conduct

Also known as: non-remorse, lit. not remembering back negatively
Pāli: avippaṭisāra
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Loving Kindness

Loving Kindness

The practice of developing boundless love and goodwill toward all beings, starting with oneself and extending outward.

Also known as: metta practice, unconditional love, goodwill meditation, goodwill, benevolence, kindness, friendliness
Pāli: mettā, metta, abyāpāda, abyāpajja
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Unassuming

Unassuming

A gentle, low-profile way of speaking and acting that avoids drawing attention to oneself; restrained in self-display, giving space to others, and simple in manner.

Also known as: courteous, low-key, respectful, not impudent, self-effacing, unpretentious
Pāli: appagabbha, sorata
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In this discourse, the Buddha advises cultivating the qualities of patience, loving-kindness and compassion. For true character is revealed only when tested by disagreeable words and deeds. Using vivid similes culminating with the simile of the saw, the Buddha instructs to not give rise to a mind of hate, even if bandits were to seize and carve one up limb by limb.

Five factors of well spoken speech are - 1) It is spoken at the proper time, 2) truthfully, 3) gently, 4) in a way that benefits, and 5) spoken with a mind of loving-kindness.

There is no other single external factor as helpful as good friendship for a trainee bhikkhu who is aspiring for the highest goal.

The Buddha explains the cause and condition by which a person comes to be recognized as aggressive or gentle. He illuminates how the presence or absence of passion, aversion, and delusion determines whether one is susceptible to provocation and reacts with anger, or remains unshaken.

The Buddha contrasts shallow and deep, factious and unified, worldly and Dhamma-centered assemblies. Communities bound by empty talk, indulgence, and discord decline, while those rooted in seclusion, concord, discipline, inquiry, and the true Dhamma flourish.

The Buddha describes three persons based on how they respond to anger. One person is like a line etched on rock, another like a line etched on ground, and the third like a line etched on water.

A radiant deity visits the Buddha and shares six qualities that ensure the non-decline of a bhikkhu - 1) respect for the Teacher, 2) the Dhamma, 3) the Saṅgha, 4) the training, 5) diligence, and 6) courteousness. The Buddha affirms these qualities as supportive of progress toward Nibbāna.