The Buddha outlines the parameters for a constructive conversation. True noble conversation avoids fault-finding and arrogance, serving only to generate clarity, comprehend the Dhamma, and achieve liberation through non-clinging.

AN 3.67 Kathāvatthu sutta - Basis of Conversation

“Tīṇimāni, bhikkhave, kathāvatthūni. Katamāni tīṇi? Atītaṁ vā, bhikkhave, addhānaṁ ārabbha kathaṁ katheyya: ‘evaṁ ahosi atītamaddhānan’ti. Anāgataṁ vā, bhikkhave, addhānaṁ ārabbha kathaṁ katheyya: ‘evaṁ bhavissati anāgatamaddhānan’ti. Etarahi vā, bhikkhave, paccuppannaṁ addhānaṁ ārabbha kathaṁ katheyya: ‘evaṁ hoti etarahi paccuppannamaddhānan’ti.

“Bhikkhus, there are these three bases of conversation. What three? Engaging in a conversation concerning the past, one might say: ‘It was like this in the past.’ Or engaging in a conversation concerning the future, one might say: ‘It will be like this in the future.’ Or engaging in a conversation concerning the present, one might say: ‘It is like this now in the present.’

Kathāsampayogena, bhikkhave, puggalo veditabbo yadi kaccho yadi akacchoti. Sacāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno ekaṁsabyākaraṇīyaṁ pañhaṁ na ekaṁsena byākaroti, vibhajjabyākaraṇīyaṁ pañhaṁ na vibhajja byākaroti, paṭipucchābyākaraṇīyaṁ pañhaṁ na paṭipucchā byākaroti, ṭhapanīyaṁ pañhaṁ na ṭhapeti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo akaccho hoti. Sace panāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno ekaṁsabyākaraṇīyaṁ pañhaṁ ekaṁsena byākaroti, vibhajjabyākaraṇīyaṁ pañhaṁ vibhajja byākaroti, paṭipucchābyākaraṇīyaṁ pañhaṁ paṭipucchā byākaroti, ṭhapanīyaṁ pañhaṁ ṭhapeti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo kaccho hoti.

Through engaging in conversation, |bhikkhus,::::| a person can be known as to whether they are fit to converse with or unfit to converse with. If a person, being asked a question, does not categorically answer a question that should be answered categorically; does not answer by making a distinction a question that should be answered by making a distinction; does not answer with a counter-question a question that should be answered with a counter-question; and does not set aside a question that should be set aside—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is unfit to converse with. But if a person, being asked a question, categorically answers a question that should be answered categorically; answers by making a distinction a question that should be answered by making a distinction; answers with a counter-question a question that should be answered with a counter-question; and sets aside a question that should be set aside—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is fit to converse with.

Kathāsampayogena, bhikkhave, puggalo veditabbo yadi kaccho yadi akacchoti. Sacāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno ṭhānāṭhāne na saṇṭhāti parikappe na saṇṭhāti aññātavāde na saṇṭhāti paṭipadāya na saṇṭhāti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo akaccho hoti. Sace panāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno ṭhānāṭhāne saṇṭhāti parikappe saṇṭhāti aññātavāde saṇṭhāti paṭipadāya saṇṭhāti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo kaccho hoti.

Through discussion, |bhikkhus,::::| a person can be known as to whether they are fit to converse with or unfit to converse with. If a person, being asked a question, does not stand firm regarding their premise and the counter-premise, does not stand firm in their strategy, does not stand firm in an assertion about what is known, and does not stand firm on rules of engagement—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is unfit to converse with. But if a person, being asked a question, stands firm regarding their premise and the counter-premise, stands firm in their strategy, stands firm in an assertion about what is known, and stands firm on rules of engagement—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is fit to converse with.

Kathāsampayogena, bhikkhave, puggalo veditabbo yadi kaccho yadi akacchoti. Sacāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno aññenaññaṁ paṭicarati, bahiddhā kathaṁ apanāmeti, kopañca dosañca appaccayañca pātukaroti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo akaccho hoti. Sace panāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno na aññenaññaṁ paṭicarati na bahiddhā kathaṁ apanāmeti, na kopañca dosañca appaccayañca pātukaroti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo kaccho hoti.

Through discussion, |bhikkhus,::::| a person can be known as to whether they are fit to converse with or unfit to converse with. If a person, being asked a question, evades the issue, distracts the conversation, and displays anger, hatred, and resentment—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is unfit to converse with. But if a person, being asked a question, does not evade the issue, does not distract the conversation, and does not display anger, hatred, and resentment—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is fit to converse with.

Kathāsampayogena, bhikkhave, puggalo veditabbo yadi kaccho yadi akacchoti. Sacāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno abhiharati abhimaddati anupajagghati khalitaṁ gaṇhāti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo akaccho hoti. Sace panāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo pañhaṁ puṭṭho samāno nābhiharati nābhimaddati na anupajagghati na khalitaṁ gaṇhāti, evaṁ santāyaṁ, bhikkhave, puggalo kaccho hoti.

Through discussion, |bhikkhus,::::| a person can be known as to whether they are fit to converse with or unfit to converse with. If a person, being asked a question, bears down on the questioner, crushes them, mocks them, and seizes upon a mistake—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is unfit to converse with. But if a person, being asked a question, does not bear down on the questioner, does not crush them, does not mock them, and does not seize upon a mistake—then, |bhikkhus,::::| such a person is fit to converse with.

Kathāsampayogena, bhikkhave, puggalo veditabbo yadi saupaniso yadi anupanisoti. Anohitasoto, bhikkhave, anupaniso hoti, ohitasoto saupaniso hoti. So saupaniso samāno abhijānāti ekaṁ dhammaṁ, parijānāti ekaṁ dhammaṁ, pajahati ekaṁ dhammaṁ, sacchikaroti ekaṁ dhammaṁ. So abhijānanto ekaṁ dhammaṁ, parijānanto ekaṁ dhammaṁ, pajahanto ekaṁ dhammaṁ, sacchikaronto ekaṁ dhammaṁ sammāvimuttiṁ phusati. Etadatthā, bhikkhave, kathā; etadatthā mantanā; etadatthā upanisā; etadatthaṁ sotāvadhānaṁ, yadidaṁ anupādā cittassa vimokkhoti.

Through discussion, |bhikkhus,::::| a person can be known as to whether they have the prerequisite foundation or lack the prerequisite foundation. One who does not lend an ear lacks the prerequisite foundation; one who lends an ear has the prerequisite foundation. One who has the prerequisite foundation directly knows one thing, completely comprehends one thing, abandons one thing, and realizes one thing. Directly knowing one thing, completely comprehending one thing, abandoning one thing, and realizing one thing, they touch right liberation. This is the purpose of conversation; this is the purpose of counsel; this is the purpose of the prerequisite foundation; this is the purpose of lending an ear—namely, the liberation of the mind through |non-clinging::not grasping [anupādā]|.

Ye viruddhā sallapanti,
viniviṭṭhā samussitā;
Anariyaguṇamāsajja,
aññoññavivaresino.

Those who converse with hostility,
|with fixed opinions::dogmatic; lit. completely entered down [viniviṭṭha]|, |swollen with pride::propped up; lit. raised up [samussita]|;
ignoble and having assailed virtues,
look for openings [to attack] one another.

Dubbhāsitaṁ vikkhalitaṁ,
sampamohaṁ parājayaṁ;
Aññoññassābhinandanti,
tadariyo kathanācare.

They mutually delight when their opponent
speaks badly and makes a mistake,
[they rejoice] in his bewilderment and defeat;
but Noble Ones don’t engage in such talk.

Sace cassa kathākāmo,
kālamaññāya paṇḍito;
Dhammaṭṭhapaṭisaṁyuttā,
ariyacaritā kathā.

If a wise person wishes to converse,
having known the proper time,
the kind of conversation practiced by the Noble Ones,
which is connected with the Dhamma and meaning.

Taṁ kathaṁ kathaye dhīro,
aviruddho anussito;
Anunnatena manasā,
apaḷāso asāhaso.

The wise one speaks on that topic
without hostility, not swollen with pride,
with a mind that is not puffed up,
without spite, |without harshness::gently; lit. without force [asāhasa]|.

Anusūyāyamāno so,
sammadaññāya bhāsati;
Subhāsitaṁ anumodeyya,
dubbhaṭṭhe nāpasādaye.

Without envy,
he speaks |completely comprehending::fully understanding [sammadaññā]|.
He is pleased with what is well-spoken,
and |does not disparage::does not belittle [nāpasādayati]| what is poorly spoken.

Upārambhaṁ na sikkheyya,
khalitañca na gāhaye;
Nābhihare nābhimadde,
na vācaṁ payutaṁ bhaṇe.

He does not train to |find faults::criticize, refute [upārambhati]|,
nor does he seize upon a mistake;
he does not bear down, nor crush,
nor speak with an ulterior motive.

Aññātatthaṁ pasādatthaṁ,
sataṁ ve hoti mantanā;
Evaṁ kho ariyā mantenti,
esā ariyāna mantanā;
Etadaññāya medhāvī,
na samusseyya mantaye”ti.

For the sake of knowledge, for the sake of clarity,
is the counsel of good people.
Thus do the Noble Ones counsel;
this is the counsel of the Noble Ones.
Knowing this, a wise person
should consult without being swollen with pride.”

Topics & Qualities:

Argumentativeness

Argumentativeness

Disposition or tendency to argue, disagree or engage in contention, often motivated by conceit or attachment to views. It obstructs harmony and feeds quarrels, rivalry, and feuding.

Also known as: bickering, contentiousness, contrariness, quarrelsomeness
Pāli: kalaha, viggaha, vivāda
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Conceit

Conceit

Self-view expressed as comparison—seeing oneself as superior, inferior, or equal; the persistent “I am” conceit (asmimāna) that underlies identification and fuels rebirth

Also known as: arrogance, egotism, pride, self-importance, tendency of self-comparison
Pāli: māna, atimāna, unnaḷa
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Contempt

Contempt

A dismissive or belittling attitude that refuses to acknowledge worth or goodness. It closes the heart, undermines gratitude, and prepares the ground for ill will.

Also known as: ungratefulness, depreciation, denigration, disrespect, belittlement, disparagement
Pāli: makkha, vambhaka
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Free from attachment

Free from attachment

Release from grasping, not taking anything as “me” or “mine,” ceasing to appropriate or identify with people, things, views, or experiences.

Also known as: free from grasping, not appropriating, not taking as mine, without acquisitions, not clinging, not grasping, not holding onto
Pāli: nirūpadhi, nānupādāya, asita, anuggaha
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Humility

Humility

An honest, even-toned self-appraisal that stays open to feedback, honors others, and neither inflates nor denies one’s real abilities; it supports learning, concord, and restraint.

Also known as: accepting of correction, modesty, unpretentiousness, humbleness, freedom from self-importance, recognition of limits, staying teachable
Pāli: anatimāna
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Investigation

Investigation

Investigation involves the process of a careful inquiry of mental states, qualities, and phenomena, examining their arising, persisting, and ceasing in order to understand their true nature and support the cultivation of wisdom and awakening.

Also known as: inquiry, contemplation, examination, analysis, exploration
Pāli: vicaya, vīmaṃsā, parikkhati
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Learning

Learning

One who has broad learning and retention of the Dhamma, gained through hearing, reciting, and carefully investigating the teachings. Such learning penetrates their meaning through discernment and serves as a strong support for practice.

Also known as: having knowledge, well studied
Pāli: bahussuta, suta
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Liberation

Liberation

Liberation can imply a temporary release of the mind, i.e. liberated from certain unwholesome mental qualities or complete liberation from all unwholesome qualities of the mind, i.e. Nibbāna.

Also known as: freedom, release, emancipation, deliverance
Pāli: vimutti, vimokkha, cetovimutti, paññāvimutti, akuppā cetovimutti
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Wisdom

Wisdom

Lived understanding and sound judgment that steers the mind away from suffering, distinct from mere accumulation of facts.

Also known as: (of a person) wise, astute, intelligent, learned, skilled, firm, stable, steadfast, an experiential understanding of the four noble truths
Pāli: paññā, medhā, dhīra, paṇḍita, asammūḷha
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Last updated on July 23, 2026