A forest deity approaches a mendicant in verse on the mistress of the house, encouraging seclusion, mindfulness, and freedom from sensual desire.

SN 9.8 The Mistress of the House

Ekaṁ samayaṁ aññataro bhikkhu kosalesu viharati aññatarasmiṁ vanasaṇḍe.

Tena kho pana samayena so bhikkhu aññatarasmiṁ kule ativelaṁ ajjhogāḷhappatto viharati. Atha kho tasmiṁ vanasaṇḍe adhivatthā devatā tassa bhikkhuno anukampikā atthakāmā taṁ bhikkhuṁ saṁvejetukāmā tasmiṁ kule kulagharaṇī, tassā vaṇṇaṁ abhinimminitvā yena so bhikkhu tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā taṁ bhikkhuṁ gāthāya ajjhabhāsi:

“Nadītīresu saṇṭhāne,
sabhāsu rathiyāsu ca;
Janā saṅgamma mantenti,
mañca tañca kimantaran”ti.

“Bahūhi saddā paccūhā,
khamitabbā tapassinā;
Na tena maṅku hotabbaṁ,
na hi tena kilissati.

Yo ca saddaparittāsī,
vane vātamigo yathā;
Lahucittoti taṁ āhu,
nāssa sampajjate vatan”ti.

Reference Translation by Bhikkhu Sujato (CC0).

Ekaṁ samayaṁ aññataro bhikkhu kosalesu viharati aññatarasmiṁ vanasaṇḍe.

At one time one of the monks was staying in the land of the Kosalans in a certain forest grove.

Tena kho pana samayena so bhikkhu aññatarasmiṁ kule ativelaṁ ajjhogāḷhappatto viharati.

Now at that time that monk had become too closely involved in the affairs of a certain family.

Atha kho tasmiṁ vanasaṇḍe adhivatthā devatā tassa bhikkhuno anukampikā atthakāmā taṁ bhikkhuṁ saṁvejetukāmā tasmiṁ kule kulagharaṇī, tassā vaṇṇaṁ abhinimminitvā yena so bhikkhu tenupasaṅkami; upasaṅkamitvā taṁ bhikkhuṁ gāthāya ajjhabhāsi:

The deity haunting that forest had sympathy for that monk, wanting what’s best for him. So, wanting to stir him up, they manifested in the appearance of the mistress of that family, approached the monk, and addressed him in verse:

“Nadītīresu saṇṭhāne,

“At river banks and guest houses,

sabhāsu rathiyāsu ca;

hotels and highways,

Janā saṅgamma mantenti,

people gather to gossip about

mañca tañca kimantaran”ti.

what’s going on between you and me.”

“Bahūhi saddā paccūhā,

“There are many sounds echoing

khamitabbā tapassinā;

that a fervent ascetic must endure.

Na tena maṅku hotabbaṁ,

They ought not be dismayed by that,

na hi tena kilissati.

for that’s not what defiles you.

Yo ca saddaparittāsī,

If you’re startled by every little sound,

vane vātamigo yathā;

like a wind-deer in the wood,

Lahucittoti taṁ āhu,

they’ll call you ‘flighty minded’;

nāssa sampajjate vatan”ti.

and your practice won’t succeed.”

Qualities:

Compassion

Compassion

A mental quality of wise empathy in response to suffering, which counters qualities of harm or cruelty.

Also known as: benevolence, concern, sympathy, kindness towards those who are suffering
Pāli: karuṇā, anukampa
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Craving

Craving

A driving ‘thirst’ that reaches out toward experiences, identities, or outcomes as the place to find satisfaction—“if only I had that.” It spins stories of lack, binds the mind to becoming, and invariably leads to suffering.

Also known as: wanting, yearning, longing, lit. thirst
Pāli: taṇha, abhijjhā
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Last updated on July 27, 2026