The Buddha teaches on a friend, presenting a threefold teaching for disciples on the path.

AN 3.135 A Friend

“Tīhi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabbo. Katamehi tīhi? (…) Duddadaṁ dadāti, dukkaraṁ karoti, dukkhamaṁ khamati imehi kho, bhikkhave, tīhi aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabbo”ti.

Tatiyaṁ.

Reference Translation by Bhikkhu Sujato (CC0).

“Tīhi, bhikkhave, aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabbo.

“Mendicants, you should associate with a friend who has three factors.

Katamehi tīhi? (…)

What three?

Duddadaṁ dadāti, dukkaraṁ karoti, dukkhamaṁ khamati

They give what is hard to give, they do what is hard to do, and they bear what is hard to bear.

imehi kho, bhikkhave, tīhi aṅgehi samannāgato mitto sevitabbo”ti.

You should associate with a friend who has these three factors.”

Tatiyaṁ.

Qualities:

Wisdom

Wisdom

Lived understanding and sound judgment that steers the mind away from suffering, distinct from mere accumulation of facts.

Also known as: (of a person) wise, astute, intelligent, learned, skilled, firm, stable, steadfast, an experiential understanding of the four noble truths
Pāli: paññā, medhā, dhīra, paṇḍita, asammūḷha
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Last updated on July 27, 2026